Mark Brehaut

How to Stop Beating Yourself Up and Start Loving Yourself More

This post was inspired by Tara Brach’s awesome guided meditations on self-love. You feel this sinking anxiety. This fear. It comes in and out throughout your day anytime you have a moment silence. It’s a very subtle, dull pain. Like a bad roommate, it’s bearable most of the time as long as you shut it […]

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Life’s Standards of Performance: 12 Do’s and Don’ts

There you are, walking away from a heated argument. But you feel good. You feel accomplished. Your head is held high. Finally, you got to say exactly what you wanted to say when you wanted to say it. What a rare opportunity! But, the next day you wake up, that conversation is still on your […]

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Forge Meaning, Build Identity, & Allowing Yourself to Feel

Note: This post was influenced by the wonderful TED Talk by Andrew Solomon Imagine that you have the power to take yourself to an experience that you’ve had before. Where would you go? Your first kiss? Maybe the time you got your first acceptance letter to college? Or, how about the time you jumped out […]

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New Year, New Resolution, Old Habits: How to see real change in your life this year

“This is going to be the best damn year of my life. This is the year I’m going to… “Lose 15 pounds.” “Get a new job.” “Learn a new language.” “Be more compassionate to those in need.” Sound familiar? If you are anything like most people – including myself – the buzz of these resolutions […]

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The Helping Paradox: How to help yourself to help others

Think of the warm breezes, beautiful sunny skies and the sweet taste of mojitos grazing your lips as your toes sink into the sand. Yup, it’s summer time – but you better get your body toned up into shape before you can even entertain the thought of hitting the beach. So what do you do? […]

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How One Random Act of Kindness Can Change a Life

November 22, 1973 It’s thanksgiving morning in North Hollywood, California. A day typically spent eating turkey and giving thanks to family and friends, the Mahavorick family of five will anticipate neither this holiday in their modest-sized home. This is the same home where 13-year-old Anthony Mahavorick’s senses will eventually be awakened by the taste of […]

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The Learning Series pt 2: Recognizing Your ‘Distant-Wise’

The following statement may be a shock to you, but here goes: There are NO new problems. Sometimes it feels as if every problem or challenge that you encounter seems brand new and specifically tailor made for you. These problems, no matter how big or small, emerge into an expanding source of anxiety where you […]

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My own prison: An introduction to a series on learning

Uncertainty… Not fear, or anxiety, or even the familiar uneasiness that accompanies the feeling of being out of place. No, it’s definitely uncertainty. This is the numbing feeling running through my veins as I walk the steps up the 1,800+ capacity North Jersey prison toward my classroom. Today is my first day teaching prisoners and […]

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