self-purpose

What Makes a Hero?

What makes a Hero? If you want to know the psychology of a culture seek to understand its heroes. From the Aztecs to the Greeks, from the Bhagavad Gita to modern day athletics, what a culture celebrates reveals what it values. We have many heroes to choose from when selecting a role model at which […]

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What the Wright Brothers Taught Me About Purpose

I spent the last week of August in Nags Head, NC, and had the most humbling opportunity to visit Wright Memorial Park. To stand on the field where Wilbur and Orville first took to the air, to see the landing sites of each successively further flight, and to read the inscription upon their memorial high […]

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Life’s Standards of Performance: 12 Do’s and Don’ts

There you are, walking away from a heated argument. But you feel good. You feel accomplished. Your head is held high. Finally, you got to say exactly what you wanted to say when you wanted to say it. What a rare opportunity! But, the next day you wake up, that conversation is still on your […]

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Independence Day: Living Up to the Name

On this day 238 years ago, we declared our independence from the kingdom of Great Britain. There was a time when the states were recognized as individuals, and people would say “The United States are..”. Now we stand 50 in number and exist in a state of unity, as people now proclaim, “The United States […]

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Forge Meaning, Build Identity, & Allowing Yourself to Feel

Note: This post was influenced by the wonderful TED Talk by Andrew Solomon Imagine that you have the power to take yourself to an experience that you’ve had before. Where would you go? Your first kiss? Maybe the time you got your first acceptance letter to college? Or, how about the time you jumped out […]

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Impermanence: Building Castles out of Sand

Impermanence is a beautiful thing. Actually, more accurately said, Impermanence is that which makes every thing beautiful. All of the joys of the human experience owe their intensity to the ever-receding state of existence. Everything we love, we love all the more when we realize that both it and ourselves will not be here for […]

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Why you should define your vision statement today

On the importance of a Vision Statement: A few weeks ago I sat down with the hopes of clearly articulating my message. How could others understand my message if I could not concisely describe it for myself? Human beings most often fall short in areas that they find themselves unable to clearly specify their feelings […]

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Your Life is a Blank Canvas. What Will You Paint?

Life is a blank canvas. In a blind stroke of luck, one evening (or day, I don’t know what kind of sex your parents had), your parents met up and decided to give you the empty picture frame that is your life. Your obligation, until the day you die, is to fill that picture frame […]

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The ‘Haves’ and ‘Have Nots’: How to find purpose in your life

Half a decade ago I graduated college. Upon being thrown into the real world, my friends and I began to start our careers. Five years later, we are officially “adults”. There has grown a clear distinction between the ‘haves’ and the ‘have nots’. But this is not a distinction of money. This is a distinction […]

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Embrace Dichotomy. Embrace Yourself.

di·chot·o·my /dīˈkätəmē/ Noun 1. A division or contrast between two things that are or are represented as being opposed or entirely different. In my own efforts towards self understanding and personal mastery, I have spent the past few years trying to find a balance. On one hand, I have been pursuing mastery of a martial […]

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Forgo Public Praise in Pursuit of a Better You

There exists an unfortunate paradox of being human: Our most valuable victories are those which go without praise When you win a game, you receive a trophy. When you perform well at work, you are awarded a raise. However, there are no trophies for the real victories in life. There is no external praise when […]

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The Helping Paradox: How to help yourself to help others

Think of the warm breezes, beautiful sunny skies and the sweet taste of mojitos grazing your lips as your toes sink into the sand. Yup, it’s summer time – but you better get your body toned up into shape before you can even entertain the thought of hitting the beach. So what do you do? […]

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Values & Happiness: Define the Terms Yourself

I believe you will never be truly happy until you know what happiness means to you. Society gives us a generalized definition of happiness in which we have a well paying job, spouse, 2.5 kids and a white picket fence. Webster defines happiness as a state of well-being and contentment. Albeit a nice thought, this […]

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The Pareto Principle: Accomplishing goals with purpose

While living our incredible busy, alarmingly finite lives we must be sure to use our time efficiently and effectively. This has been the focus of my study over the past few months as I have read anything I can get my hands on regarding the most important of topics, learning how to learn. I have […]

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My own prison: An introduction to a series on learning

Uncertainty… Not fear, or anxiety, or even the familiar uneasiness that accompanies the feeling of being out of place. No, it’s definitely uncertainty. This is the numbing feeling running through my veins as I walk the steps up the 1,800+ capacity North Jersey prison toward my classroom. Today is my first day teaching prisoners and […]

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